Thanks for reading friends, love you all!! *Pam
Sunday, October 30, 2016
We have had to say a lot of goodbyes in the last 6 weeks. More goodbyes then I care to make again. HARD goodbyes. And we knew that by coming to Cebu and working with children at an orphanage where the whole point is finding homes for the orphaned and abandoned children, there would be more goodbyes. Happy goodbyes, but still goodbyes. The whole point in being here is helping these children get ready for their adoptive families. We pray, we pray a lot, for families that will open their hearts and homes to these children and that they would take the chance to fall in love and bring an orphan into their homes. That means children leaving CSC and going to their adoptive families, and us saying goodbye once again. Just because its a happy goodbye doesn't make the goodbyes on this end any easier. We were able to witness our first adoptive family come and pick up their children last week. It was a mom and dad, farmers from Utah, adopting a sibling group of 5. This particular sibling group has a set of twin boys that are 9 years old. Ironically these boys were the first ones to capture the hearts of our boys. They were the first names we heard when we asked if they met any friends the first time we went up to the shelter and if they knew what their names were. These boys played with Isaac and Carter for weeks. We (Jake and I) knew when we got here that these siblings were already adopted and that they would be leaving soon. What we weren't ready for was the emotion that goes into a sibling group like that leaving. Over the short weeks that we have been here we have been able to get to know this sibling group (as well as the other children here). The 2 teenage girls in this family loved on Mady like she was their own baby sister. The middle boy although extremely quiet has a wonderful sense of humor and I would see him smirking at the funny stuff going on around him. He has a smile that would melt anyones heart. The twins, well lets just say I wish I had a quarter of their energy. They are funny funny boys and it was their favorite thing to do anything that would make someone laugh, even at the expense of not listening to instructions (sound like anyone else you know? Ahem, Carter :) ) We are so happy for these kiddos to have found a family and we are so excited for this mom and dad to have found this group of siblings. Jake and I had the opportunity to spend quiet a bit of time with mom and dad. They are the sweetest people. So kind and compassionate and they had a love for Jesus that we could see. She is a homeschooling mom (they have 3 other adopted children at home that are older) so we talked a lot about what has worked for her over the years, and she was a huge encouragement to me in my homeschooling adventure. The dad reminded me of my own farmer dad. We had a lot in common because of the farm aspect. Jake and him were able to share some funny farm stories as well. We were sad to see them all leave. It was especially heart breaking watching these kids say goodbye to their friends, our kids included. Please, can you join me in praying for this family? As with any change and especially in the adoption process, the "honey moon" stage will wear off. With the love and happy times, comes the stress and unhappy and hard times as well. Pray God will give them patience with each other and comfort especially to the children as they have left the Philippines and everything they have ever known and are now living in a strange place very different from where they come from (I know that feeling and it is not easy, trust me). Pray that they will be comforted by our heavenly father as they get to know one another as a family. And maybe someday when we are back in the states, we will make our way out west to visit a happy family on their farm in Utah.
Thanks for reading friends, love you all!! *Pam
Thanks for reading friends, love you all!! *Pam
(I am sharing these photos with permission given by the family)
Tuesday, October 18, 2016
Every child (and most adults!) loves a good birthday party and at CSC it's no different! As you can imagine we get to enjoy many birthdays here. Sometimes many birthdays in a single week. That is A LOT of cake and ice-cream :) Birthdays are extra special with the kiddos here. They don't have a lot to call their own, but their birthday is THEIR day! We get to celebrate them as individuals. I have tried hard to capture the smiles and the happiness that a birthday party brings and I will post a few pictures below. Another thing the children love is getting birthday messages from you! Many of you have "liked" the CSC Facebook page and you have seen something similar to this: "Mady celebrates her 7th birthday today. Leave a message below and we will give it to her tonight" This, you guys, is gold to these kiddos. They pour over these messages and it is a great way for them to feel connected. The children are so proud of their messages. They read them and re-read them and share them with their siblings and friends. I had no idea how much these messages meant to the kids until I got here. If you happen to see that message please take the time to say Happy Birthday to them. What a simple way to make a child feel the love. If you haven't "liked" CSC's fb page yet you can find it under Children's Shelter of Cebu. A birthday party here looks just like any other birthday party. There is delicious food, cake, ice cream, presents, balloons, friends, and singing! A child gets to invite 2 special friends from to their party. Sometimes that is a child from another house and sometimes it is a teacher from school. They get dressed up in their nicest day and put on their biggest smile. We LOVE birthday parties here and for more reasons then just eat cake :) Thanks for reading! Love you guys!! *Pam
A video of the kiddos singing
Jake sitting with the littlest among us
A house parent welcoming everyone to the party
Each child gets to pick the staff member who says a prayer for the child and the meal
Mady and her friend with homemade flowers in their hair
A new pillow case filled with presents
This little guy didn't know what to think of the cake :)
Getting a good view of the new presents
Wednesday, October 5, 2016
We are 3 days into our homeschooling adventures and so far so good. Here are some quotes from the children. "This is so fun! I love homeschool"-Carter, "Can I do some more work while I wait" -Mady "Can I use a calculator" -Isaac. These quotes reflect the kiddos personalities so well lol. Isaac did also say that homeschooling is fun and that he loves that we can make it fun. We are all looking forward to a fun-filled year of learning. You can pray for us as we begin this new phase of school. I have never taught in a school setting before but I am looking forward to the challenge. We do plan to start "specials" (art, music, library, physical education, and bible class) at The Children of Hope school (CSC's school) as well. Not sure when that will start officially, maybe this week. We are continuing to love our time with the children at CSC. We try to go and play during their free time as much as possible. (see some school pictures below)
Not school related but a real life stuff-- With most things, change is hard. Here it is no exception. We see it mostly with Mady. She is missing her friends back home a lot and is having a little more of a difficult time getting too far away from me. I think she is uncomfortable because of all of the attention she gets and the lack of being able to communicate verbally. She doesn't want to tell someone she doesn't understand with the thick accent. My first mission here is to be supportive of my husband and children. Once everyone is feeling comfortable, I am excited to see where I fit in in a volunteer role at the shelter as well. That may take some time yet, we shall see. Jake is loving what he is doing here. He sees purpose and feels like he can and is adding value to this beautiful organization. He is in full swing with his duties and loves learning more and more about CSC and the Philippines everyday.
We hope you are all well. We pray everyday for our friends and family. If you have any prayer requests, we would love to pray for you too. You can email us at email@example.com or post below or find us on Facebook. We would love to know how you are all doing as well. We miss you all! Thank you for your continued support both prayerfully and financially (we still have a little ways to go financially, more about that in a later post). We love you all!! God bless!! *Pam
- Patience with school for all of us.
- Continued transition- Mady is still sticking pretty close to me. I am hoping that she will be brave enough to venture a little way and make some friends. The language barrier is harder for her to overcome then it is for the boys. I know this will come with time for her too.
- Church- We know that we will never be able to find a home church like we have in Sturgeon Bay but would like to find something where we can Worship, Know, and Proclaim God here, too :)
- Jake as he continues to add value at CSC in the office and as a whole family as we continue to minister to the "fatherless" here in Cebu. (when I find the words I will talk about what we see just outside our comfortable gated community, the homeless crisis is real).
- Adoptive Families- Past, Present, and Future.
Math Class!! Just kidding, just enjoying a game of monopoly :)
Self Portraits: Made in God's image